Managing Mental Health During the Festive Season: It’s Okay Not to Be Okay!
The festive period is often painted as a time of joy, love, and celebration. But for many, it can be an incredibly challenging season. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or disconnected while the world seems to expect everyone to be ‘Merry and Bright’, please know this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE , and it’s okay to feel the way you do.
Here are some ways to support yourself and prioritise your wellbeing during this time.
Allow Yourself to Feel, without judgement…
The pressure to put on a happy face can be exhausting. You don’t need to suppress your feelings to meet others’ expectations. Whatever you’re feeling—sadness, anxiety, or even numbness—is valid. It doesn’t make you any less worthy or lovable.
Try this: Write down your thoughts in a journal to validate your emotions and understand them better.
Give Yourself Permission to Say No
You might feel pulled in all directions by social invitations or family obligations. But it’s okay to say no if something feels too much. You deserve to protect your emotional energy.
Try saying this: “Thank you for the invite. I’m taking some time for myself, but I appreciate being thought of.”
Remember: Boundaries are not selfish—they’re necessary for your wellbeing.
Create Your Own Safe Space
If traditional celebrations feel overwhelming, consider making space for something that brings you comfort. Maybe it’s curling up with a book, lighting a candle, or watching your favourite movie. Your holiday doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
A suggestion: Dedicate time to an activity that brings you comfort and joy.
Reach Out When You’re Ready
When you’re feeling low, reaching out can feel daunting—but connection, even in small ways, can ease the burden. A supportive friend, family member, or therapist can remind you that you don’t have to carry everything alone.
Know this: Online therapy sessions can provide a sense of connection if in-person support feels hard to access.
Focus on What You Can Control
The festive period can feel chaotic, and it’s okay to simplify. Focus on small, manageable steps each day—whether it’s making yourself a meal, taking a walk, or just sitting quietly with a cup of tea.
Try this: When you feel overwhelmed, pause and practice mindfulness techniques, like deep breathing or guided meditations, to stay present.
Embrace Rest Without Guilt
If you’re feeling exhausted, rest isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity. Let go of the guilt that says you must “do it all.”
Remind yourself: Rest is productive. It allows your body and mind to recharge, helping you face challenges with more resilience.
Look for Small Glimmers of Joy
It’s okay if happiness feels far away. Instead, look for tiny moments of peace or comfort—a warm blanket, listening to your favourite song, or even the twinkle of fairy lights. These small glimmers can remind you that beauty still exists, even in hard times.
Practice this: Write down three small things each day that made you feel calm or grateful.
REMEMBER….You Are Not Alone
This season doesn’t need to be perfect, and it doesn’t need to look a certain way. It’s okay if this time feels hard. You’re allowed to feel exactly as you do and to take things one moment at a time.
If you’re struggling and need someone to talk to, I’m here. At Inner Gold Therapy I offer a safe, compassionate space where you can explore your feelings without judgment. Together, we can find ways to bring you comfort and support, not just during the holidays but beyond.
Be kind to yourself—you are enough, just as you are.
Warm wishes,
Cathy 💛
